Throughout our life, we face a myriad of situations and circumstances. Some good, some bad, some… I’m still trying to figure out. But, biblically we know that ALL things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. There’s that word again, purpose. I asked the previous question, “What’s the purpose?” But here’s the follow-up… “Who is this for?”
Everything that we deal with has purpose attached to it. But, we need to see things from the big picture. What I mean is, many times we are soo close to our situation that all we can see is ourselves or our inner circle. When was the last time that we stopped to say, “This isn’t about me…” When was the last time that we sought after the ‘reason’ behind what we’re going thru.
One of the things that I’ve been reminded of is that many people suffer in silence. They deal with their issues but due to the circumstance, pride, or fear they don’t feel that their voice will be heard. Unfortunately, in a lot of cases, it’s true. People don’t really listen. They hear you talking but you voice is like the adults on Charlie Brown… Waa-waa-wahh. They may answer the question but don’t really answer the call. This is one reason why there are support groups.
I was on an internet radio show last night. The subject dealt with breast cancer and my recent scare with it. After the show, my wife and I were talking about how important it is that people know that they aren’t alone in their various fights and that we need people that understand what we’re talking about because they’ve been there too. Look at AA, Alcoholics Anonymous. The power behind what they do isn’t just the ‘steps’ but having the support of those that are in the fight with them. Wow… I just got a picture…
One reason why people don’t know how to respond to you is because they aren’t IN the fight. They’re WATCHING the fight. They are spectators. In a boxing match, who are the people IN the fight? The boxers (of course), the trainers, the managers, the ‘cut-man’… basically all the people that are connected to the ring… not everyone is inside of the ring but they all have a vested interest in the outcome. The spectators on the other hand, don’t have that vested interest. They have a desire to see you win but does the winner matter to them a year later, a month later or the next day? People that are connected have a different level of caring because they’re vested.
We also need a rallying cry. Another thing that was mentioned was that Breast Cancer Awareness month is October. But, here we are talking about this in January. Just because it’s not popular to wear the pink ribbon doesn’t mean that the issue has stopped. Our issues and concerns don’t flip on / off with the turn of the calendar. The problems aren’t checking their watch to make sure that they’re on schedule. Many times our problems come all at the SAME TIME!!! Here’s a quick example… I was dealing with job issues, health issues, children issues and depression when I was diagnosed with a lump on my breast. My dad goes into the hospital. Then last night, while waiting to go into the studio, my son sends me a text that his unborn child had just died. The problems don’t cease to come but, the Bible says that He won’t put any more on you that you can bear…
How can we bear our struggles? The Bibles answer is to “cast your cares on him because he cares for you”. I agree totally. The other part is while you’re casting… get help.
As believers, many times we miss things because we are expecting God to magically fix everything. The Bible says that faith without works is dead. Casting your cares is faith. Getting the assistance, the guidance, going to the doctor… that’s the works. Too many believers have died before time because they didn’t do the next step.
As men, we are the problem solvers. It’s our duty to fix everything. But, guess what, there’s nothing wrong with saying I need help. There are people that understand your struggle and are willing to fight with you. We just need to open up just enough to ask for that help.
Never forget that we are all in the fight together…
I love you ALL!!!