Observations Relationships

What is… Terrible Love

Love is a beautiful and terrible thing…

If you’ve followed my Facebook page for any length of time, you’ll see that I try to post something about love every day. Most of the love quotes are positive and uplifting. Most are heartwarming, merry, and even thought-provoking. But, that is the BEAUTY of love…

I know at least a third of my readers asked the question, “How can love be a terrible thing?” when seeing the first line. Well, the answer is quite simple…

Love is an action not just a word. So many people say, “I love you” and have absolutely no passion behind those words. It’s like teenagers arguing with their parents. You KNOW that they are cursing you out in their mind but, the moment that you let them use the car… The first thing they say is, “I love you, Mom”. Really?! That ain’t love. Your actions don’t match your words. So, that love is EMPTY. It’s lifeless. Devoid of any substance…

Empty Love IS a terrible thing. Unfortunately, we deal with that all of the time. Not just with teenagers but, what about our friends? You reach out to them in your time of need and they are always too busy to respond to you. But, let them have a need… Now, they love you. EMPTY…

Love is a boomerang… It MUST come back. Love that isn’t returned is BROKEN. When you throw a boomerang, you expect it to return to you. If it doesn’t return when thrown then, it’s not a boomerang. It’s just a stick.

Broken Love IS a terrible thing. The problem with broken love is that, over time, a person grows accustomed to the hurt, pain and anguish of broken love, or loving someone who doesn’t love them. They anxiously wait for their love to come back to them but to no avail. They hold onto the hope that one day love will come back. Until one day, they give up that hope and die. Broken love is a killer. It’s hard to recover from broken love because it becomes an expectation that love won’t return.

Love has purpose. There is a reason for love. Love fulfills, uplifts, encourages, feeds, nurtures, celebrates, corrects… One writer put it this way:

Love never gives up.
Love cares more for others than for self.
Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have.
Love doesn’t strut,
Doesn’t have a swelled head,
Doesn’t force itself on others,
Isn’t always “me first,”
Doesn’t fly off the handle,
Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others,
Doesn’t revel when others grovel,
Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,
Puts up with anything,
Trusts God always,
Always looks for the best,
Never looks back,
But keeps going to the end.

That writer was Paul to the church in Corinth, of course.

But, Paul was talking about the beautiful aspects of love and it’s varying purposes. But, what happens when love has NO purpose? Let’s see how that scripture changes when we reverse the language…

Love always gives up.
Love cares more for self than for others.
Love wants what it doesn’t have.
Love struts,
Has a swelled head,
Forces itself on others,
Is always “me first,”
Flies off the handle,
Keeps score of the sins of others,
Revels when others grovel,
Hates the flowering of truth,
Doesn’t put up with anything,
Doesn’t trust God at all,
Always looks for the worst,
Always looks back,
And never keeps going to the end.

The problem with terrible love is that our society is embracing it. To a certain degree, we expect terrible love. We expect people NOT to love us. We expect people to turn their backs on us. But, that isn’t the life that I intend to live.

The way to overcome terrible love is to drown it in beautiful love.

I have a million more things to say but, I’ll stop for now.

I love you ALL!!! There’s a Nu Sound in the air…

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